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Title: Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
ISBN: 0553381407
Author:
Susan Forward
Craig Buck
Publicate Date: 2002-01-02
Publish: 2002-01-02
List Price: $16.00
Average Customer Rating: 4.5
Format: Paperback
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1: Whether you are a child or a parent......
If there is any lingering hurt between you and your parents or you and your children, this book is worth reading. Even young people can relate well to it's concepts (yup - that's me! pointed out my son - and we're from a pretty close family). I have sent it to many teens and twenty-somethings, but even my 40 & 50 something friends have found some wisdom and comfort in knowing that "it wasn't just them" or "oh my g..! I did that too!"
Knowledge is power and choice - once we have a better understanding about where our "hurts" are originating from, we can change those thought patterns and maybe even find the courage to talk to the ones we have hurt or have hurt us.
Easy, fast and can be read in parts.
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2: This is what can really change your life
... having someone who stands by your side.
Perfect examples, broad life experience, no judgement, just a quest for the inner truth each one of us has deep inside.
I suggest this book to all those who need a neutral point of view, beyond common sense, religion, and even psychotherapy itself.
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3: MUST HAVE if your parents are crazy like mine!!
Do you walk on eggshells around your parents? Do you dread seeing them, really? If so, chances are, your parents are toxic and they have you under their control. I have since realized this after 36 years. This book almost appears to have been written by me as it captures what happened in my past and recent relationship with my parents. Get this book! They are crazy and you no longer have to buy into their loonyness! By the way, I just saw a counselor and she said that the first person to either leave the family or get kicked out of it is the healthiest. GO for it; run! You can't change them no matter how much you pity the crazies!!
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4: Good but not great
Reading this book will confirm what you already suspect about your parent's behavior if you have toxic parents. It will also confirm that many of your emotional habits, such as letting people walk all over you, or not standing up to others because you don't want to make them angry, are because of the way you grew up. This book may help you to redefine your relationship with your toxic parent if you are in a position of still desiring a relationship with that parent. The short coming of this book is that it lumps so many kinds of abuse into one book that you don't get a good feel for how to deal with the specific type(s) of abuse that you experienced. It also doesn't really give the reader any tools to move forward in their own life. Yes, it validates that you were abused, but it doesn't talk about how to move yourself forward in any aspect other than your relationship with your toxic parent. The one thing that I took from this book, and am very greatful for, is the realization that my aging and in poor health, but still miserable, angry, mean, and toxic parent lived her life and made choices to get to where she is today, it isn't my fault she is miserable and mean (even though she would tell me otherwise). I am entitled to live my life, I don't have to feel sorry for her and try to make her feel better at my family's expense anymore. Basically, after reading this book and dealing with a nasty precipitating event, I have realized that I am not responsible for her problems, she is. So if you are in need of validation that your parent is toxic, read this book. However, if you are looking for a way to pull your life together because of childhood abuse, this isn't the book you are looking for.
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5: Did NOT receive!
I cannot rate this product due to not receiving it. When I looked up the tracking number it said it was delivered, however, I did not get the package. I have contacted the post office, but they could not do anything. If you could help me resolve this I would be grateful as I will not pay for something I did not receive. Thank you.
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